Thursday, October 24, 2013

Good Dad, Bad Dad

Took Kate to gymnastics today. It was just us, Jack had a baseball practice. Usually he is along, and we listen to music and they talk over each other. Today I left the radio off, trying to do that a little more often, and Kate and I chatted about her day. She told me about drawing candy corns, and how they did this math thing with pictures of candy corns, and it was all very cute.

We talked about being important, because she said something recently about Jack being more important, which obviously concerned us. But I think, now, maybe it was a case where one of us used the remark in reference to getting ready for something, probably baseball, and he was "more important" because he had to be there sooner. Because today, on the way to gymnastics she said she was the important one. And I said, you are always the important one. You and Jack both are. Anyway, I got the sense she was meaning it differently than we initially feared.

Took Jack to a Haunted House deal at the Middle School. Thought it would be fun, scary, but fun. Well, he didn't have fun. Too scary for him. I don't blame him. It was scary, and they had zombies and ghouls and stuff groaning and moaning at us. I guess it was his first exposure to anything, you know, scary. And maybe he was too young.

He seemed OK after we had been out of it for 5 minutes or so. I kept telling him it was just people in costumes, some of whom we saw afterward walking around the halls. He nodded. And said, but it was still scary. And I said, yeah, I know.

Probably a bad call by me.

Saturday, October 19, 2013

Team player

Jack had a couple of baseball games today. Beautiful fall day, sunny, almost balmy in the sun.

We dropped Jack off early for warmups, then showed up for the start of the game. As I walked up, coach said the other team didn't have enough kids, and Jack would be playing on their team in the first game. I was kind of like, uh, Huh? But Jack was ok with it -- he is very agreeable kid -- and he collected his stuff to go to the other dugout. His teammates clapped him on the back and stuff (saw one of them saying he should try to play bad on purpose), and the game started.

Jack, on the other team, played in the outfield, and then shortstop when their regular guy got hurt and had to move to the outfield. He got one chance, a wicked ground ball that got by him. At the plate he had a hard groundout, a walk, and a strikeout. His good friend Dylan knew how to pitch him, that's what I'm thinking. And his team won. One of them, I think the one he was playing on.

Game 2, he was back on the Pirates. Drew a walk, got hit by a pitch. Played a couple innings at second base (he made his debut there a week ago but didn't have a ball hit near him), and it was pretty exciting. Had a hard, two hop grounder hit to him, threw him out at first. Tough play! Later, on a ball hit to short with two outs and runners at first and third, he covered 2nd and got the force. Little stuff, but not routine for 8 year olds, and especially for kids who seldom play there. Petty cool to see him make those plays. When he is in the outfield, you basically hope the ball isn't hit out there, because they are seldom played correctly by anyone. So we would watch games just hoping for good at-bats. It was kind of new watching for fielding plays. Fun.

After getting hit by a pitch, he ended up coming around to score. Close play at the plate; he came in standing up and we told him to slide next time. But he was safe, and his team won again.

Afterward, Jack told Emily he hadn't been sure about Fall Travel at first, because Coach worked them hard, and a lot of his friends from summer weren't doing it. (I had noticed he hadn't squawked much about missing a couple of practices recently.) But that now he was enjoying it. I told him, later, that I was really proud of him, taking one for the team. Lots of kids, I think, wouldn't have had as good an attitude about it as he did. Told him it was great seeing him make a couple of plays in the field, too.

Later, I got an email from the coach. He hadn't emailed me directly before; I only know him through this season. Just said, "What a great day Jack had. I don't really believe in game balls, but he deserved one today. He is a true team player."

Really nice to hear. I think we mostly want our kids to be really good at a sport, make plays, get hits, whatever. When Jack and I are out playing football in the backyard, I get impressed at a leaping catch or a perfect throw. (His, too! No, I kid.) I get excited when Kate rides her bike or, sometimes, climbs a tree too high, both of which also occurred today.

But being a good teammate? Trying hard, doing the right thing, earning respect of the coach? I like to think that I'll remember that stuff just as much as the hits, the catches, the game outcomes.

I'll tell Jack what the coach said, and I suspect it will be pretty much how he reacts when I praise him or compliment him for something. He'll nod, have a little smile on his face, take it in stride. Pleased with himself, but cool. Kind of the way he is. And tomorrow he'll pick up his stuff and go play ball again.

Thursday, October 10, 2013

Comic convention

One of my kid memories was going to my first ever comic convention in Boston. My dad drove me and a friend 3 hours there, we arrived, spent all our cash in 15 minutes on a huge stack of comics, and said, OK, let's go. And we drove home.

So I got tickets for Jack and me to the Thursday date. He was pretty excited, telling all his friends and teacher about it. I picked him up early at school and he came running out. Emily believes Jack would be ecstatic for us to be doing pretty much anything alone together, and she might be right.

We drove in, chatting a little about baseball, swimming, comics. Guy stuff. Parked, found our way in. Gaped. The place was huge, there were thousands and thousands of people, it was a mob. Jack was really into the people all dressed up...we took pictures of him and cactus guy, Jack Frost, other stuff. The costumes were all pretty cool...some really get into it. A couple of Wreck It Ralph's, several Supergirls, lots of zombies. Lots of kids in costume too.

Best parts? Well, there was Jack playing with Legos with a couple of little kids in the Lego/Mattel area. Making an octopus I think. There was him digging through old Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle comics, finding ones he liked. Speaking like the minions from Despicable Me 2. Helping me find comics, sharing this cool freeze-dried ice cream, sleeping in the car on the way home.

Best though was us, hungry and exhausted with sore feet, buying a couple of hotdogs, sitting against a wall, eating them with a bag of Fritos and sharing a water. "Dad, is the comic convention once a year? Will we go next year, too?" Maybe we will.

Sunday, September 29, 2013

Baseball again!

Haven't talked much about Jack's fall baseball season. It has been kind of strange,,with an erratic schedule, Jack being sick or otherwise missing last weekend's games, and the overall quality of play being shaky.

And Jack struggled at the plate the first few games, and I'm not coaching, so it is all a different vibe from the summer.

But it was an awesome weekend. Yesterday, things started to turn around for him at the plate. We had been practicing some, swing and stance and stuff, and he was looking a little more comfortable at the plate. Had a good at bat which resulted in a hard groundout to the right side, moving the tying runner over in the final inning in a game we won 3-2. Today, with only nine guys available, Jack played the whole game, made a couple of fielding plays and a throw home.... And in his first at bat, lined a double down the right field line, the best hit - and first double - of his career. Reached base each of his next three at bats, too, with a liner to center and a pair of grounders. 3 hits. A bust out game! Said a friend, and it's true.

After the game, I told Jack how great he played, how proud I was, and got a big grin. Then he went off to a birthday party, baseball probably largely forgotten. (Funny, because yesterday, walking home, same thing happened...Emily was praising him for moving the runner over, Jack smiled, then spotted a squirrel and started chasing it. Already moving on.)

Funny thing is, I mean, I'm proud of Jack anyway, all the time. Every time he's at the plate, in the field, being nice to Kate, helping around the house. Guess it's easier to get excited about a hit in baseball or something in public, but it's not a new feeling. Maybe baseball just reminds me of it.

Weather was nice this weekend. Sunny, warmer than you would expect, clear. Great weekend for baseball.

Friday, September 27, 2013

No noise

The last couple of days, maybe longer, I have been feeling like there is a little too much noise around me. It's noise I create, either the radio, or the visual noise of something like my cellphone. Just spending too much time immersed in it. I realize this is not a unique or new discovery on my part.

Today when the kids got home from school, reacting with joy to the Halloween doormat I'd put out, because it is NOT too early, I spent my time listening to and watching them. I gave them the Halloween window decorations I'd bought this morning, and watched them put them up in their rooms. "I'm making art this year," said Jack, as he carefully created a scene in his windows using the decorations. And he was, it was kind of cool.

With Kate, I had to move her radiator cover, help her stick the decorations on the window, move everything back into place. Her creations were more literal. "I'm going to make this cat about to eat this rat. And this bigger rat will be about to eat the cat. You know a baby rat is a mouse? Here's the owl on the roof of the house. And THIS big owl is its Mommy."

I walked Kate over to Daisy scouts at 5. We held hands, and she sang. I dropped her off, made sure she found a friend and a place to sit in the circle, waved goodbye.

I drove Jack to swim team tryouts in Rye. We always have the car radio on, but I left it off this time. We talked about baseball playoffs, school, recess, the upcoming comic convention. We had a few minutes to wait at the Rye Y, so we played foosball. He had his tryouts, and afterward said, "I think it was the best freestyle I've ever done. Sometimes I get tired, but I didn't get tired at all."

We drove home, again without the radio. Just chatting. He observes random things, the kind of stuff I do. Like: "That store....Arnold's Signs. It had this old wooden, dusty sign with a pole sticking out of the bottom. Like something in a Western movie or something. Couldn't a sign store have a nice, new sign?"

We picked up a pizza, and Jack said hi to the turtles. I told him the sign observation was funny, and he went off on it for another two minutes.

We got home and ate. Took a brief break from our no electronic devices to play a silly pinata game on Google.com. That was funny. Kids had showers, we read books, and went to bed.

Electronic devices are OK sometimes. Last night we danced in the kitchen to a couple of great songs, saw a funny music video with all different kinds of dancing.

But sometimes enough is enough. Turned off my phone a while ago, and now I'll turn off the computer and go look at the window decorations the kids put up. Right n

Saturday, September 21, 2013

Great team

A rare slow afternoon at the Richardson household. But there was sun in the midst of rain, and so I cajoled Kate into going out for a bike ride. Brought along a wrench, because this was the day we were going to learn to ride without the training wheels.

We went to Rec Park, a small, lightly attended park within walking distance that had a huge tennis court. Jack learned to ride his bike there two years ago, probably about this time actually.

Kate and I had tried it without training wheels a couple of times earlier this summer. Hadn't really gone well. She would put her feet down immediately when I let go of the seat, or thought I was going to. I was encouraging and all, but she didn't really seem close.

But today, she rode for a few seconds after I took my hand off the seat. And I could see she was getting a little excited about herself, because she kind of smiled, and when I said, you want to try again, she said yes. She would ride for a few seconds, I would say, you're getting it, she would smile, and we would try again.

Then she wanted to go on the playground, and she did that, and I figured, this is great progress, and we will come back next week and do it. But then I asked her, do you want to try a little more? And she thought for a moment and said, "Sure."

And this time when I let go of the bike, she kept going. And was riding. Ad it was pretty awesome.

All the way home she said, "I love riding my bike! We have to show Mommy and Jack! They will be so excited!"

I put her to bed tonight, her reading me Harry By the Sea. And she gave me a big hug, a squeezer, and said, "We're a great team!" And then, to explain, "you know, learning to ride my bike..." And I said, yep, I know.

Friday, September 13, 2013

Birthday girl

Kate turned 6 today. The day began with Jack coming into my room and telling me I had to get up, because The birthday girl wanted me to. I said, ok. Went downstairs, and as is often the case, she was sitting at the breakfast table hiding behind the cereal box. Why, where is Kate? I said. And she laughed and said, "I'm here! Daddy!"

She opened her cards and presents, properly appreciative of most everything. I know she will like the Amelia Earhart book one day. Oohed and Aahed at the big-eyed stuffed toys, and then she and Jack played with them until school. They have a ceremony where the new stuffed toys are welcomed by the older ones. Pretty cute really.

At pickup in the afternoon, she was wearing a Birthday Girl hat. We came home and played the Princess and the Pea game, then she had Daisies after that (girl scouts). We brought cupcakes. When I left she was running back and forth with the other Daisies, playing a game whose rules only little girls know.

We went to dinner at Elevation Burger, her choice. We all said what the favorite part of our day was (for three of us it was dinner, for Kate it was running around with her friends). Then Kate talked for what seemed like a good 15 minutes, telling us who was sitting at each of the different tables in her classroom. I had asked who sat at her table, and she went above and beyond. "And at the YELLOW table it's Julietta and...."

Going back home, we briefly stopped to say Hi to cousins playing in the street. I think Kate picked up leaves, sang a song of some sort. Oh, I know: "I love being six....I am very glad to. Be. Sixxxxxx!" I know that at bedtime, after we read Frog and Toad for about the hundredth time, and we turned out the lights, she sang. The song went something like, "I love school....because at school....you see your friends....and on your birthday, you get a birthday hat! I....love.....school!"

When I left, Kate gave me a squeezer, which is what she calls a big hug. They are pretty awesome. Good night, Kate.

Thursday, September 05, 2013

Special Day

Kate's birthday is coming up, so we decided to take her into New York City to have lunch at the American Girl Doll store. For those unfamiliar, this is a ridiculously huge store that sells merchandise related to ... American Girl ... dolls. And has a restaurant inside!


I woke up to hear Kate moving about her room, with various thuds and drawers opening and closing. I came out to find her dressed, in a nice purple dress that I hadn't seen since her first day of school a year ago, with a band holding her hair back. She was holding her American Girl doll, also wearing a dress and hairband. Ready to go, I asked. She nodded, "Yes, I just need to brush our teeth."

In the kitchen, Kate sang "Today is a special day...a special day..."

We took the train in, Emily, me, Kate, and her American Girl doll (also called Emily). Jack was at a friend's house. On the train, all the way in, we played I Spy, and Going on a Picnic.

At the store, Kate flitted about from display to display. "Ooh, look at THIS....and THIS...." She was most intrigued by the little stuffed dogs. We ordered one of them once and it was kind of lame, so we sent it back. But one of these, at least, was nicer, so we put that in the back of our mind for Christmas.

Naturally, "Emily" got her own hairbrush, and various hair accoutrements so she could have braids, and a clothing outfit.

Lunch was a very nice affair where we got several courses, including pastries, fruit, and of course chocolate milk. Kate was a little on edge here and there, but by the time dessert came, with a candle on hers, she was happy as could be.

Heading home from the store, she was tired, and I carried her. She put her head on my shoulder, and her American Girl doll's head on my other shoulder, and sighed. She was warm, a nice warm.

On the train, she lay down with her head on Emily's lap, and "Emily's" head on her lap, and sang something. Not exactly sure what it was, but it might have been, "Today was a special day ...a special day..." 

Tuesday, August 20, 2013

Vermont

Came to Vermont with Jack and Kate this week. Kind of squeezed it in between my deadlines, and camp, and just when we could get away.

It's nice to get away. It's sort of a trip to the past. I drove the kids by their great-grandparents' house in Springfield, pointed out the tree I used to climb. Drove them by my grade school, and the pile of bricks that used to be the McDonalds I went to (and very briefly worked at...) in high school.

At my parents house, they appropriately fawned over the kids. Gave them little grandparent-y presents. Nana and Kate read books together, Jack and I tossed a baseball around with Baba. That was pretty cool, especially with Baba being impressed by how comfortable and relaxed Jack was throwing it around. He noted Jack's arm strength, his lack of fear of the ball, his ability. It was fun. Jack pitched to me, then Baba pitched to Jack. Three generations of Richardsons playing ball. I think we're both suckers for that stuff (Jack's oblivious).

Went to dinner at Black Rock steakhouse. I love the place. Even the salad bar was awesome. Kate had a hot dog. Jack, to his credit, ordered the N.Y. Strip of the kids' menu, and ate most of it. Fair play to you, Jack. I drank red wine and enjoyed the meal.

We searched, fruitlessly, for deer on the way home. I know plenty of deer live in Vermont, but we've never found one on our hunts. Emily doesn't believe they exist, I don't think.

The next day began at the golf club. Baba and I took Jack up to get his swing started. He was remarkably game, even wearing a garish combo of plaid shorts, a striped shirt, and red sneakers. He didn't really stand out up there, however. We hit at the driving range for a while, then putted a little while more. For a first time, he did OK. Next summer, we'll play a little more.

In the afternoon, we went to Stoughton Pond. It was a hot day and I think I mostly wanted to give them a chance to cool off and also burn off some energy, but it was a lot more fun than even I expected. Part of it was the nostalgia, I used to go there a lot as a kid. Partly it was just really relaxing, with cool water, empty grassy area to sit on, sandy beach, warm sun. I played with both of them in the water, plus they goofed around in the sand. Kate swam around, back and forth, forth and back. Jack ran and splashed and hit me with a wiffle ball. We did that for two hours.

On the way home, because it was a hot day and they were good, we stopped at Country Kremee to get soft-serve ice cream. We all got chocolate and vanilla swirl with rainbow sprinkles, sat at a picnic table in the shade, and wolfed it down. Just like I used to do 5, 10, 20, maybe 30 years ago.

I think that's what Vermont is to me. Stuff I used to do, stuff I used to enjoy, stuff I still kind of enjoy. And now they do, too.

Monday, August 05, 2013

Wait 'til next year

Baseball season came to an end today. A hard-fought 3-2 playoff defeat. Jack led off the last inning with a thrilling, hard-hit single up the middle. A great birthday present! And then was slow leaving first on a ball the catcher batted around, and got thrown out on the basepaths. Left the field in tears, I had to talk him off the ledge. Other team scored to win it in the bottom of the inning.

It's funny. Emotional high and low in the space of 2 minutes. That's baseball. I love this game.

Afterward, Jack was down for a bit. Thought he cost the team the game, thought he ruined my birthday. I said, you know what, Jack, that was a great hit. You made a mistake, but you learn from it, and you get better next year. And afterward, he was OK, and running around with his friends.

It was a great season. A lot of fun. My son became a baseball player. I remembered how great baseball is.

Wait 'til next year.

Sunday, August 04, 2013

Jack pitched today

Jack pitched today. He had talked about wanting to pitch basically for months, and his first audition a month or so back had been shaky, but we practiced some, and he auditioned for the coach again last week. And he aced it; threw a bunch of strikes, coach smiled at me and said, "We'll, I've seen enough," and indicated Jack would probably get an inning in today, our regular season finale. So naturally I thought about it all week and woke up for good at about 4:30 a.m. But game time finally rolled around, and after some uncertainty and anxiety (would he get a chance? Would he throw strikes if he did?) the fifth inning came up, and coach said to Jack, "You're on the mound."

Not sure Jack knew entirely what to do; which ball to take (game ball, on the mound), how to warm up. But he gradually figured it out, threw his warmups to the catcher, and the inning began. He threw some balls and some strikes, getting squeezed - I tell you! - on a 2-2 pitch and walking a batter, but ultimately getting the side down on a groundout, a popup, and a caught stealing. It was awesome. Pitching shouldn't be such a big deal, I guess, but it is, because everywhere else, you don't handle the ball as much. He caught all the throws back from the catcher, threw some strikes, walked two batters, gave up a hit and a dribbler, but finished the inning. Came off the mound happy, relieved, smiling, got a nice fist bump from coaches, teammates, and headed into the dugout. We were pretty happy for him, because he wanted to do it, worked at it, and did it. That's how life should work, right?

He was proud. Asked about strike to ball ratio. Heard from a couple of teammates about their first pitching outings. ("I walked 15 guys!" one said.) Got a game ball, which he juggled endlessly during the coach's postgame speech. Seemed relieved. And he wasn't alone.

Proud of him.

Sunday, July 28, 2013

Another baseball weekend

The summer has all kind of blended together, with one baseball weekend seemingly flowing into another -- interrupted by things like vacation, art camp, and work. Mostly though, it's been shuttling Jack to baseball practice, baseball games, and baseball tournaments. Including one this past weekend in Neshamin....neshaminy...uh, not gonna work here anymore, Pennsylvania.

We decided to give Kate this one off. She has fun teasing the boys, playing with the other younger sisters (and older sisters and brothers), and from what I gather eating gobs of candy and other junk food during the games, but we thought she would just as soon hang out with her cousins and grandparents at Cathy and Ian's all weekend. And that Emily would like to actually watch an entire game without trips to the concession stand for Kate's sugar fix. So it was win-win.

It was awfully quiet riding down in the car with just Jack. I don't really think of Kate as noisy, at least most of the time, but it was really quiet without her. Jack read some, played games, chatted a little, but mostly it was sedate. Plus we crawled along at 10 miles an hour for more than an hour somewhere in New Jersey, that wasn't much fun.

We arrived, checked in, got a quick lunch at McDonald's -- Jack's choice, natch. Went to the ballpark to find that our game would be delayed a good half hour -- and then played a lengthy 14-12 game, a Pirates win. Jack wasn't in the starting lineup, which was a little disappointing, even though not unexpected. We started 9, the top 7 are really good, and then the 8-12 spots are shared by the other five players, a group Jack is reasonably in. But you don't see his name in the lineup and you feel bad for a minute, even if he plays as much as the other kids in that grouping. He got hit by a 3-0 pitch to help start a rally that got us from down 10-5 to pulling out the win, which was pretty cool (uh, the rally, not the getting hit). Struck out swinging in his lone at bat the next game (a loss played immediately after), then got a hit in our third game the next day which drove in our only run (in the loss that eliminated us). Not an overly successful weekend by previous tournament standards (a combined 9-1 and one championship), but we were warned it was a tough field of teams and it really was. And though we went 1-2, we weren't far from winning all three. Wait 'til next year.

The big things for us were twofold. One, after being hit fairly hard, Jack was fine in his next two at bats-- stayed dug in, got good swings and hit a ball hard up the middle, knocked in a run, and was happy afterward. Came over to me and gave me a high five, proud of himself. And two, at the hotel the night after the second loss, he laughed and played in the pool with all his teammates until the late hours of the evening, the loss and hit by pitch long forgotten. The summer of baseball has been great for us. It's been incredible for him.

Back in town this afternoon, we took him to a wings place for lunch. He got his standard chicken fingers and pineapple juice, and avidly watched some baseball game on the big screen TV. I sat across from him and Emily, he in his Pirates hat and jersey, managing to look both big and yet small, beautiful. Our son, our baseball fan, our baseball player. Then he took the straw that came with my water, ripped the top off the paper, and blew the rest off the straw and into my eye. And laughed like an 8-year-old.

Monday, July 22, 2013

Vacation, rest

Ok, I just spent 15 minutes trying to find my notes from the rest of vacation and couldn't. So I am just going to have to wing it based on memory and hope for the best.

On Monday we rode bikes to Sheep Pond (we saw no sheep, I don't get it). Well, Emily and Jack rode bikes, I worked with Kate on riding without training wheels for half an hour before we got in the car and drove to the pond. I am not optimistic she is ready, granted we have only worked at it twice. She is resistant, and I can understand. Jack was a year older and a lot bigger when he finally learned. Sheep or no, the pond was awesome, Kate did her steamboat swimming and Jack and I tossed a ball around (and I tossed them, too). I think that was the night we had dinner at Guapo's, which was fantastic. Margaritas and the best fish tacos ever. I have absolutely no idea what the kids ate, probably cheese quesadillas, whatever.

On Tuesday we were pretty sun-weary and kind of took it easy. Went to batting cages and bumper boats in the morning (Jack had fun, Kate sort of sulked even though she could have done both herself), hung at the pool the rest of the day. There Kate was in her element; she loves the pool.

Wednesday we went to Nauset beach, which is on the ocean rather than the Cape side, and which had big waves and big undertow. Emily was a little nervous about the kids, but they were awesome; I won't soon forget the grin on Jack's face when the waves lifted him up on the boogie boards we bought. They hadn't really swum in the ocean before; it dropped off quickly, the waves were big, and it was pretty cool. I pulled Kate out on her board and she jumped off, said "Bye!" And swum into shore. Lots of fun for all; we stayed most of the day. The occasional scary moment with a powerful wave was part of the fun, as I guess was the big sign warning us about sharks.

Thursday was our fishing trip, where we and a bunch of other families rode out with Cap'n Kid so kids could get a taste of fishing. I don't know exactly how it was rigged, but let's just say that if fishing were this easy and bountiful all the time, well, whatever, it isn't. Jack caught 7 or 8 in an hour; so did "Kate" (in quotes because Emily and I did all the fishing, with her encouraging us). The only limit to the number of fish you could catch was the length of time it took you to remove one fish and bait the hook again. Fish-calling devices underwater? A big fenced-in area? Or perhaps a barrel? I dunno, but the fish sure were biting. And oh yeah, the kids had a total blast and beamed proudly throughout. Jack also got to hold a lobster and a crab of some sort, and swab a deck. If he put as much enthusiasm into picking up his room I wouldn't have cut open my foot on a beyblade last week.

We went to a Cape Cod League game that night. Jack watched the game with us for about 15 minutes  before finding a group of kids chasing foul balls and hanging with them the rest of the evening. He was properly respectful of how fast the pitchers were throwing the ball, at least, as was I. Impressive.

Friday we finished up at "our" beach, the more sedate Cape side one with calmer water. Nobody really wanted to leave, so for 6-7 hours, we didn't. We swam, the kids made sand castles, and then found a bunch of other kids with nets and built their own little aquarium of crabs and fish, some of whom probably survived the experience. Jack and I threw the ball around the water for what seemed like, I don't know, hours. We played whiffle ball, because as Jack said, "it's not a beach trip without whiffle ball." I floated on Jacks board with him, Emily helped Kate stand on hers.

We finished the day at Cobie's, with seafood and ice cream and some hilarious attempts at a family self-portrait -- worked great two years ago, not so much this time, though we did get a nice one at the beach. A nice family time.

I forget a lot already, I suspect. I don't remember which afternoon Kate and I went to the pool alone, but she jumped in a ton, and I tossed her around just as much, with her bobbing up like a happy cork each time. Jack and I played catch most nights, and watched an awesome display at the Home Run Derby one night...possibly the only time I have ever been really into it.

So, a lot of fun. I think we will do things differently next year -- Jack missed too much baseball, we and our "big" vacation will probably be something else. But I don't think we will be able to give up the Cape entirely. Too many good memories. And the margarita and fish tacos.

Monday, July 15, 2013

Vacation, days 1-2

Jack and I and really all of us have had a pretty baseball intensive summer, so a vacation was much needed. Walking to the park for practice Friday evening we realized it was our 4th straight and 9th day out of 10 that we had walked there for a game or practice in the evening, not counting the tournament the previous weekend. So we were up for a break.

Hit the road Saturday morning, driving a good 2 1/2 to 3 hours before stopping for lunch. Went to a Wendy's that seemed so clueless that we ended up leaving to cross the street for McDonald's. Kids were happier anyway. We ate in the car and cruised into our vacation home (we call it that because we have stayed in the exact same condo three years in a row) in record time, and were swimming in the pool an hour after that.

Highlight of checking in is the kids scurrying up to their room, putting their stuff away, plotting future forts or games, reminiscing about things they played with the previous year. They have whispered conversations that last some 10 minutes before it occurs to them they could be at the pool.

At the risk of overdramatizing, they kind of almost drowned me. I pulled Jack off the edge into 8 feet deep water. Then Kate, who is fearless but not yet a star swimmer (she is good, don't get me wrong, but we watch her like a hawk in deeper water) jumped in, too. And then she had an arm around my neck and I couldn't tread water very well with her on my back. So I kind of wrenched her off me, and then Jack was there, thinking we were playing. Ultimately I got free of them and dragged Kate back into shallower water, and explained through a mouthful of pool water that I couldn't tread water with 80 pounds of kids around my neck. A little scary at the time.

On the flipside, there is a brand new bar at the pool. Boo-yah!

We had dinner at a seafood place and made Jack order seafood, rather than chicken fingers. He basically complained most of the way through an expensive plate of scallops. I mentioned that he could have had fish and chips, which he quickly (not quickly enough...) realized were fish sticks, which he loves. Sigh. Next seafood meal. Kate had Mac and cheese, and then we all got ice cream that neither kid could finish. Not the best eating day.

Back at our vacation home, Jack and I had a catch in the postage stamp back yard. And played an old school pegboard baseball game. So Ok, even on a vacation, it wasn't a totally baseball-free day. What can you do.

Day 2

Woke up late, pleasingly, and came downstairs to find Jack and Kate playing pixie sticks together, one of the old-timely games the vacation house has. We used to have the game, known as Jack Straws.

Gradually we put everything together and went to the beach. It was a glorious day. We made sandcastles. Spent a good hour finding rocks near the shoreline. Jack and Kate dug a hole, frequently stopping to check out a nearby hole three other kids were digging, to make sure their hole was better. Jack and I played whiffle ball. Frisbee. Bought hotdogs.

Kate led me out into deep water. "Daddy, will you go out into the wild with me?" Ok. she jumped in again and again and did her fish-like steamboat swim over and over.

Best part was either playing whiffle ball with Jack or finding rocks with both of them. It became a contest - is this colorful enough? Flat enough? Striped enough? Think we could have done it for another hour or two, but we were meeting friends for dinner and had to book. There were steamers, and ice cream, to be eaten.

Monday, July 08, 2013

Another baseball weekend

Went to Rehoboth, Massachusetts for a baseball tournament this past weekend. It was a fairly crazy schedule that included five baseball games -- and very nearly six -- between 6 p.m. Friday and 6 p.m. Sunday.

Jack's first baseball tournament was in Basking Ridge, New Jersey back on Memorial Day Weekend. To the surprise of everyone, Port Chester went in and won all five games (including two playoff games) to emerge as champions. Rehoboth, though, was viewed as a much tougher nut to crack. In past years, Port Chester not only hadn't done well there -- they hadn't won a game. Last year they went 0-3 in games on Friday and Saturday and cleared out of Dodge early in the morning on Sunday.

Given that information, expectations were kind of low, but surprise. On Friday night, Port Chester simply outclassed its opponent, shutting them out in a 10-0 game that shouldn't even have been that close -- the umps incorrectly imposed a 4-run limit on runs per inning. After that easy win, the team returned to the hotel and (with temperatures in the 90s all weekend) celebrated at the pool until curfew. Lots of happy baseball players, coaches and families, and plenty of jumping in the pool and throwing kids around (to their delight). Kate probably had as much fun as Jack, which was nice.

The first game Saturday was more of the same; Pirates dominated a lesser opponent. It was a closer game (albeit not on the scoreboard, 11-0 I think), but never in doubt.

Jack was struggling a little at the plate. He started out with his feet too wide apart; got that straightened out, then wasn't keeping his second hand on the bat; then (since the whole team was drawing heat for taking strikes) overcorrected, swinging at everything. By Game 3, he was hacking a little bit (Port Chester won that game, too, though, in dramatic fashion, nearly blowing a 7-2 lead but cutting down the potential tying run at the plate in a bang-bang play to end the game).

In Game 4, he struck out three times, so discouraged after one that he came back to the bench in tears. "I stink at baseball!" he cried, as low as I've seen him in a while. Incidentally, the no crying in baseball motto does not apply to 8-year-old games. I think I would have an easier time listing the players who didn't cry this weekend -- there weren't any. I had the tough experience of picking Jack from that low point, just as the other coaches had to pick their own kids up from equal (or in some cases, worse) meltdowns. Not to mention the parents who either tried to soothe (or in some cases, caused) their own child's tears.

It's an emotional experience, for 8-year-olds, for parents, for coaches, for baseball fans. I saw parents probably going a little too far in yelling at kids, and put in impossible situations of trying to talk despondent kids back to calmness. I felt that with Jack, after seeing him as low as he was, what I needed to do there was pick him up, and dial back the advice and counsel, because he was getting so much (from coaches, teammates, and other parents) that it was simply too much -- more than an adult should have to deal with, probably, and way more than an 8-year-old should.

So I cut back on the advice, and ramped up the encouragement, and things got better. In Game 5, which turned out to be the last game, he came up with the bases loaded and us down 2-1, and got a hit off a slow roller down the third base line that he beat out. I was yelling RUN RUN RUNNNNN! and I think he was running as fast as I've seen him, but whatever else that may been said or done, he got there and was safe. He came back to the dugout after the inning (where we took a 3-2 lead) as happy as I've seen him, with a big grin and his eyes shining, happy he'd come through. I don't care if the hit had been 5 inches, but I know he (and yes, I) needed that to have happy memories of the weekend, or so they wouldn't be overshadowed by his struggles.

We lost that fifth game, though, 8-7, with the tying runs on base in the final inning as three Pirates went down on strikes. There were a lot of tears and a lot of disappointment; having won their first tournament, some players on this team didn't know what being eliminated felt like. But it was an awesome game, and the team played hard, and players all over the lineup made plays or got hits to leave us with the memory of a game that left the tournament sponsors afterward saying it was the best they could remember in several years. A pretty classy moment, even if not all the kids wanted to hold their heads high afterward. But they could have.

Three asides that should be mentioned:

I have never been so hot for three days straight as at this tournament. There was almost no shade anywhere at the baseball complex, and the dugouts that had shade had metal roofs -- much warmer in them than under, say, a tree. And we were in shorts; the kids were in baseball pants, high socks, and cleats. High volumes of water, Gatorade, juice, and water were consumed, and high volumes of perspiration were put forth. It was just disgustingly hot, although strangely none of the kids seemed to mind. Long as there was plenty of water to pour over heads, it was all good with them.

Kate no doubt doesn't enjoy the 12 hours of baseball per weekend, but she does have a lot of fun running around with the players' little sisters. And brothers, one of whom a 4-year-old she allegedly kissed on the mouth this weekend. Awesome! She was up past 10 the first night (and second straight, since the previous night was the 4th, and she enjoyed her first fireworks display), and jumped in and out of the pool, and was tossed, around 100 times. We hosted another little girl for a sleepover the first night; they were pretty cute together. The second night, though, way behind on sleep and overwhelmed with activity and other kids and baseball, she was plenty happy to just go back to the room and sleep for about 11 hours straight.

Saturday night, with the team 3-0 and having enjoyed a nice meal at Outback Steakhouse, we went to the Grand Prix Arcade/Racetracks across from the hotel. It's a sprawling collection of bumper cars, bumper boats, video games, mini golf, and go-kart racing; basically kid heaven. Jack had more fun than I've seen him doing the various racing things, just giddy with laughter at each new track. He even talked me into going onto the bumper boats; I'm sure one day a chiropractor will tell me to thank him.

Headed back to the hotel at around 11 p.m. that night, an exhausted Jack waxed philosophical on everything. "It's amazing how much my life has changed by going out for travel baseball," he said. How so, I asked. "Last year I was just at home sleeping at this time. Now I'm running around with my friends all weekend and swimming and playing baseball. It's great."

And then we got back to the hotel, this half-asleep kid went to bed, and he slept about two hours later the next morning than he had in years.


Monday, July 01, 2013

Movies

Jack's game was rained out so we had the afternoon off. Kids (well, Jack) had been asking to see Monsters University, so I loaded them into the car and we were off.

Parked and rode the escalator up. Kate ran up, Jack lingered at the bottom looking at posters, I was kind of halfway to each of them. Eventually we congregated and got in line. Apparently I thought it was the 90s or something, because at the cashier for matinee tickets for two kids and one adult, I held out a $20. It was $31.00. Would have been $10 more for 3D. I also held out a $5 for popcorn. It was $8. I am old, and apparently senile. Jack noted that we got free refills for our livestock sized popcorn. Will your baseball team be joining us?

We sat in the very back, which is more than close enough. Jack was into the popcorn up to his elbow, while Kate ate her share, too. They were entranced by the previews, with Kate saying "I love this movie!" at every one. The animated short beforehand was, uh, slight.

The movie was filled with monsters, scary to Kate in parts. She climbed into my lap about 8 times. This is because after 10 minutes, my leg goes to sleep and I have to put her back into her seat. Then a monster shows up,  and she sidles her way back onto my lap. And she does not sit still.

At the end of the movie, a song came out for the credits, and Kate gets up and dances. A lot. Jack: "Kate, what are you doing?" Kate: "I'm dancing!" And continues. Jack shrugs and joins her. I consider getting my free popcorn refill, because I don't think I got much of the first bag.

Saturday, June 29, 2013

More baseball

The summer travel baseball schedule is in full swing. Jack had a road game Monday, a home game Tuesday, and pitching practice on Wednesday. Tidbits from each:

-we walked into the road game to see a team practicing on what appeared to be the field. "Dad, is that the team we're playing?" Jack asked, not without trepidation. The kids looked to be about 12. No Jack, our field is over there. "Oh. Whew."

-it is all a big party for Kate. She hangs out in the stands with a bunch of kids her age or 4-5 years older, eating ice cream and lollipops and whatnot. I think she notices Jack has a game going on, but it is not integral to her enjoyment. The other day she was sitting on the lap of Taylor, several years older sister of one of Jack's teammates. I suggested having that teammate join us at the pool one day next week, and Kate said, "can Taylor come too?" I said, well, maybe we will have someone within 5 years of you in age along instead.

-in the home game, Jack got drilled by a pitch. There is some debate over how well he took it, with his own mother leading the "needs to be tougher" crowd. Emily is hooked on the games and Jack's performance, including not wanting him to be in pressure situations. Final inning, us down a run, she was keeping track of when he'd be up, and noting the possibility of him making the last out. Indeed, we loaded the bases with nobody out, next two batters struck out, bringing Jack to the plate. Every parent's dream or nightmare, depending. On a 3-2 pitch, he drew a walk, tying the game. He ran down to first with joy in his face, which continued when the next batter also walked to win the game. Happy kids afterward.

-the next night was supposed to be an off night, but the coach held pitching practice for a few kids, including Jack. For this one, I didn't coach, just stood on the sidelines with other parents watching. Tough to do! Jack looked a little awkward throwing off the mound and needs more work before he pitches in a game. Later he and I practiced in the backyard and he looked a lot better. While Emily was googling pitching tips for kids, I asked Jack what was up. He said, "Coach said to throw higher." I said, No, he said HARDER. "Oh." We will work on it.

Sunday, June 23, 2013

Sick, birthdays, sick, etc.

Friday was the kids' last day of school, so we collected them, hugged their teachers (Kate drew a picture captioned "I love you, Mrs. Glockenberg," with two smiling figures in it with one saying to the other, I love you!) and went to have Mexican food. But Jack was starting to get sick, and he didn't eat much and then went home and lay in bed/on the couch all weekend. So that's pretty much Jack's story.

Kate and I went to the pool. Both days. She loves to swim. Jack likes to play or throw a ball in the water. Kate likes to jump in the water, swim in a circle, climb out, and jump in again. I think she did it 300 times the last two days. Sometimes I would stand in the middle of the pool and she would swim to me, and then back. Other times I would sit on the edge and she would swim from me, and then back. Aside from forays to the playground, and shuffleboard (she CHEATS!), that was pretty much how things went.

Kate also had two birthday parties this weekend. One was apparently fine, she had a blast. The other, well, she had a minor meltdown as Emily dropped her off, another later on (leading to me and Jack having to go collect her, except she was fine then) and a third toward the end of the party, leading to Emily collecting her early. Kind of a mess. Maybe she was starting to get sick, maybe she was tired, or maybe she was just in one of those moods where she was easily upset and couldn't shake it, as happens every so often.

Sunday evening, Jack was a little better, and Kate was perfectly happy again. We sat on the deck, ate grilled chicken and corn, and it felt like a nice end to a perfect summer weekend, although it wasn't. We will try again next week.


Thursday, June 13, 2013

Old friends

Last Saturday, we wnt to Yorktown to visit a friend of Jack's whose family had moved up there last summer. We were friendly with the parents, too, but it was mostly to give him a chance to see an old friend. We had done something slightly similar once before, inviting a preschool friend to a party, and that didn't go overly well...a year apart had been like forever for that friendship. So we kind of figured we would stay a couple of hours, catch up and then head home.

Instead, Jack and Brian kind of picked  up where they left off. They spent the next several hours playing with toys, sticks, video games, whatever, and then we headed to a nearby state park and we all fished, then they used a couple of metal detectors to find a bottle cap and a piece of colored glass on the beach. And then it was getting late, so we stayed for dinner, then broke out what appeared to be a limitless supply of sparklers, fired them up, and watched the kids run around waving them in the dark. While a seeming herd (flock? Gaggle?) of gray tree frogs serenaded us with their songs, and we were reminded that you don't have to drive too far out of the suburbs, which I feel like we live in even if we don't, to be in the country (which it felt like we were in even if we weren't).

Driving home, with both kids sleeping (Kate spent the day playing happily with the older brother, and fishing, and having a love-hate relationship with the sparklers), I felt better about the whole connecting with old friends thing,  not only for Jack, but for us. We went up mostly thinking it was good for Jack to see someone outside his regular group of friends, but it was a lot of fun for us, too. You get stuck in routines of doing the same things with the same people and forget about all the other things there are to do (fishing! Ordering from a different Italian restaurant!) with somebody you don't see all the time.

So anyway. Jack had fun and we had fun, and it's nice when that happens not just when you drag your kid somewhere, but when you go there because of them. The next day I got an email from the Mom saying her son "was so happy -- he thinks Jack's his good luck charm," partly because he caught three fish after not catching any before. So that was pretty nice, and we'll go back there. Maybe next time Jack will catch a fish, too.

Although I think finding the bottlecap and colored glass made up for it.

Wednesday, June 12, 2013

Moving on up

Kate had her Moving Up ceremony today,  which means she graduated from kindergarten. I am not sure exactly what she would have had to do to get held back, but regardless. She wore a lovely dress, and she and her classmates sang the songs she has been practicing around the house the last few weeks, and her various teachers and assistants spoke, and it was pretty nice. Jack had one two years ago, of course, but I don't remember it too well...will have to check the archives. I remember him wearing a blue striped shirt from the pictures I've chanced upon, and that he is still friends with most of the same kids. And Kate has made some nice friends the last few months, I think, so I hope she is too.

Anyway, all the parents stood around with our cameras, snapping pictures of the kids singing and waving and then getting their little diploma type things and smiling and waving some more. A friend sent a picture of Kate getting hers with a little proud smile. We took pictures with her friends and teachers and jack...nice morning. And the last moving up ceremony.

After, Kate and I went shopping and got lunch. Her choice, McDonalds. At home I mowed and she drew with sidewalk chalk. Kind of an ordinary Kate and Daddy afternoon. But fun; usually I have both kids, or neither so the one to one is nice sometimes. 

At bedtime she told me she had a nice day, then sang herself to sleep.